Your Marriage's Cheat Code Inside, Really. 🎮💕
Hey lovebirds,
Ever wished for a cheat code to make your marriage unstoppable? Good news: I've found the ultimate cheat code, and it's called the 5 Love Languages. I know you’ve heard of it before, but trust me, it’s gold when applied right.
Whether or not you have read the book, it’s ok, I am here to give you the skinny you need to have a thriving marriage.
If ever I have written a “must read” newsletter, this is the one.
Why the 5 Love Languages Are a Game-Changer
In any video game, the goal is to understand the rules so you can win, right? Same with marriage. But unlike a game, your partner's not an opponent; they're your teammate. Knowing their love language is like having a walkthrough guide in the palm of your hand.
If you don’t know the 5 love languages, here they are. It’s been proven that people feel love in one of these 5 ways. Everything boils down to one of these 5, that’s important to know.
Words of Affirmation: Kind words and praise
Acts of Service: Doing chores or helping out
Receiving Gifts: Little tokens of affection
Quality Time: Giving your undivided attention
Physical Touch: Hugs, cuddles, and sex
The Twist: Most people think they should show love how they want to receive it. Wrong move!
Listen Up Closely Here
The game-changer is learning to speak your spouse's love language, not your own.
For instance, if your spouse’s love language is physical touch, but you don’t care much for it, you need to LOVE THEM with physical touch… it’s their language!
The mistake many make is to try and love that person with something else, like Acts of Service, but the problem is they WON’T FEEL LOVED, and therefore won’t love you back in your language.
Interesting how simple, yet profound this is, right??
So, I am going to generalize for a second, but it can be men or women interchanged.
This is why so many women who don’t give their husbands the sexual desires they want, struggle in marriage. They aren’t “loving them”, even though they think they are.
This is also why men who don’t give their wives compliments, or help them around the house, struggle in their marriage because they aren’t speaking their wives’ love language and therefore the wives don’t feel loved.
The Action Plan 📋
Declare Your Love Language: Both of you should take the 5 Love Languages quiz, and declare to each other how you feel loved. You can't play the game if you don't know the rules.
Most people feel very loved with 1 to 2 of those languages. Your spouse SHOULD know your 1 to 2 languages.
Quick Tip: Always be grateful when your partner speaks your love language. Gratitude is the power-up that makes every action more effective.
Level Up Your Marriage
If marriages had a level-up system, the 5 Love Languages would be the fastest way to hit the level cap. Seriously, you've got your cheat codes now. Your next step? Activate them and watch your love life soar.
Sending you all love, light, and cheat codes for an incredible marriage,
Marina 🌹