Scheduled Romance: The Ultimate His & Hers Guide to Initiating Intimacy
Your guide to a lasting marriage
Hey Lovebirds, let's get real about the unspoken dance we all do—figuring out who initiates those intimate nights. Sure, spontaneity has its perks, but have you ever considered scheduling your passion? Before you scoff, listen up.
A little planning can actually kill the stress and cut the guesswork, turning 'Will we or won't we?' into 'Oh, we will! And here’s how!' No more animosity, no more wondering when you'll next 'get some,' just pure, sexy anticipation.
So, the best way to ensure you have regular amount of sex in your marriage is to schedule days that you or your partner will initiate. Don’t worry, it can still be spontaneous.
Here’s how it works. Your spouse has to initiate once during 3 certain days and you the other 3 days. So, your spouse might have Mon-Wed and you have Thur-Sat. This means that at some point on each of those assigned days, you initiate!
This solves the problem in many marriages, where it’s one sided because your spouse has a higher sex drive. It’s frustrating for someone with a higher sex drive to always initiate. They just want to feel wanted and know when they will get some, and this solves this.
Give it a try and in the meantime, let’s come up with some ways you can initiate when it’s your day!
For Husbands: How to Initiate Physical Intimacy
1. The Compliment Sandwich
Compliment her, express your desire, then add another compliment.
2. The 'Remember When' Technique
Recall an intimate moment you both loved. Tell her it would be nice to re-live.
3. Direct but Sweet
Express what you want openly but make it about her.
4. The Touch and Tease
Light touches throughout the day to build anticipation.
5. Chore-Play
Domestic duties can be the ultimate foreplay. If you do certain things in the house then you get certain things in the bedroom. It might be fun and the laundry will get done too!
6. Scheduled Seduction
Setting a 'date' can be sexy too.
7. Thoughtful Gifts
Random gifts that show you've been thinking about her.
8. The Written Word
A sensual note hidden for her to find.
9. The Planner
Plan an entire romantic evening, from dinner to dessert.
10. Movie Magic
Use a romantic movie scene as inspiration. Watch erotic movies together.
11. Game Night with a Twist
Add a flirty, intimate challenge to a standard game night.
12. The Scavenger Hunt
Lead her around the house to a romantic setup.
13. The Confidence Booster
Compliment her in areas where she feels insecure.
14. Adventure Time
Suggest an out-of-the-box activity that ends in intimacy.
15. The Dance
A slow dance in the living room can turn into much more.
16. The Whisper
Get close and whisper your desires in her ear, while gently stroking her back or arms.
17. The Kiss Trail
Start with a kiss on the lips, then slowly move down her neck, and further if you're both comfortable.
18. The Massage Swap
Offer a sensual back or foot massage that gradually becomes more intimate.
19. The Bathtub or Shower Beckon
Prepare a warm bath or shower with essential oils and invite her in.
20. The Guided Hand
Take her hand and guide it to where you crave her touch.
21. The Bedroom Eyes
Make eye contact and maintain it as you slowly move in closer.
22. The Candlelit Room
Fill the room with candles and bring her in for a "surprise".
23. The Blindfold
Add an element of surprise with a blindfold before you start touching her.
For Wives: How to Initiate Physical Intimacy
1. The Confidence Booster
Compliment his skills or looks before making a move.
2. The Reverse Psychology
Ask for a small favor, then initiate.
3. The Surprise Element
Initiate when he least expects it. While you are watching Netflix or while in the car!
4. The Text Tease
Send a spicy text during the day. Might be a spicy meme, or a dirty pic, or just telling him what you want to do later.
5. The Flirt Revisit
Go back to your early dating days with your flirtation methods.
6. The Spontaneous Snuggle
Use a casual cuddle as a springboard.
7. Foodie Foreplay
Incorporate his favorite food in a fun and sensual way.
8. Musical Cues
Create a playlist of songs that you both find sexy.
9. The Gratitude Grab
Thank him for something specific, then lean in for more.
10. Love Letters
Write him a short, steamy note to find.
11. The Dress-Up
Wear something you know he loves. Panties, lingerie, or costume.
12. The Mystery Date
Plan an outing that concludes with a romantic night. Don’t be afraid of the strip club.
13. The Power of Touch
Focus on non-obvious erogenous zones.
14. The Replay
Mimic one of your most memorable intimate moments.
15. The Sudden Start
Begin masturbating yourself in bed so he can walk into a surprise and knows you are ready! This is my favorite.
16. The Lip Bite
A lingering kiss followed by a playful lip bite can send a strong message.
17. The Hair Tug
Run your fingers through his hair, then gently tug to indicate you want more.
18. The Lap Sit
Surprise him by sitting on his lap and planting a kiss.
19. The Sudden Strip
Remove an article of your clothing in a teasing manner, and continue to remove.
20. The Textured Tease
Use fabrics like silk or feathers to softly touch him, building anticipation.
21. The Close Whisper
Get close and whisper what you'd like to do to him, or have him do to you.
22. The Nibble
Lightly nibble his ear or neck as a clear invitation.
23. The Full-Body Hug
Press your body against his and hold, letting the physical closeness speak volumes. Bonus if naked, makes it easy to get it going.
24. The Lingerie or Birthday Suit Reveal
Show up in lingerie when he's least expecting it. Go to bed in something sexy or naked so he knows you are into doing something now! Or you can text him picture during the day of something sexy you are wearing!
And there you have it, lovebirds—your His & Hers cheat sheet for taking turns and turning up the heat in the bedroom. Scheduling intimacy isn't about making love feel like a chore; it's about creating a space where passion is not just possible, but probable.
So go ahead, put yourselves on the calendar and let the steamy anticipation build. Happy initiating! 🌶️
With Love,
Marina