Navigating Marriage Through Maslow’s Framework
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Let’s chat about Abraham Maslow and his iconic hierarchy of needs. Bet you didn't see that coming, huh? 😉 While his pyramid might first seem like Psych 101 throwback material, it’s a goldmine for relationship insights. Especially when we’re talking about the 🔥 in our marriages.
Before we talk about each of the areas of the pyramid, let’s see a picture so you can see for reference all the spots that have sexuality in them.
1. Physiological Needs - Sex at the Base? 🛌
Before we get fancy, it's all about the basics. And guess what’s foundational in marriage? Yep, physical sex! If you notice, sex is right up there with sleep, food, and breathing! Wow.
Many wives argue that their husband “always wants” sex. Well dear, it’s because they aren’t getting enough of it and as you see in the pyramid above, it’s not a want.. no, it’s a need! It also doesn’t say sexual intimacy, (that’s higher on the pyramid), just plain ole’ sex. The physical act of it, they are wired to need it!
Let’s suppose a homeless person for a moment. What do you think will be on their mind all the time? Yep, you guessed it, food and shelter most likely. They can’t climb that pyramid until their basic needs are met. This is the same for your husband with sex!
2. Safety Needs - Your Heart's Armor 🛡️
Here's the deal: trust isn't just about not lying. It’s about creating a space where both of you feel like you're back in the warmest, safest blanket fort from your childhood. Emotional and physical safety means your relationship is a haven where secrets and dreams are shared freely.
3. Love and Belonging - The Sizzling Core 🔥
Okay, now we're at the heart of it. Sure, emotional bonding is dreamy, but let’s not forget the sizzle and spark of sexual chemistry. When you combine heart-to-heart talks with bed-tumbling passion, you get a relationship cocktail that’s both intoxicating and comforting.
This is the nights when you can’t keep your hands off each other – that's what keeps us bonded, cozy, and feeling all kinds of special. You holding hands, telling each other intimate things, and so on. Ultimate closeness!
4. Esteem Needs - Your Personal Cheer Squad 📣
Who doesn't love feeling like the hottest thing since sliced bread? Especially when that feeling comes from your partner's smitten looks and flirty comments. In every marriage, those small gestures, those whispered sweet nothings, and unexpected compliments are the fuel for self-worth and all the fuzzy feels.
5. Self-Actualization - Together to the Stars 🌌
This is where you both soar. It's about those shared dreams, mutual growth spurts, and knowing you're both each other’s biggest fans. Through thick and thin, you’re the dynamic duo helping each other become the best versions of yourselves.
In Closing…
So, Maslow might’ve been onto something big for us romantics. It’s all about climbing that pyramid hand in hand, and trust me, a dash of physical intimacy makes every level way more fun.
So, if you have a spouse who is always wanting sex from you, know that it’s science! Also know that you are fortunate, as I have seen many women with husbands who don’t desire them anymore or are simply getting it somewhere else and they wish their husbands would want them!
Dive deep into these layers, and I promise, your marriage will be the stuff of legends (or at least the envy of your friends!). Until next time, keep the love (and the fun) alive! 💖🌶️
Warm love,
Marina