Exploring Intimacy Enhancers: The Double-Edged Sword of Adult Content in Your Marriage
Hello married folks, I hope you are all well as we break into fall, the time of Pumpkin spice lattes! If you can’t tell, I like my pumpkin spice season. 🎃
Enough of coffee, you are here to hear more about how your marriage can thrive, not just survive!
Today’s topic is porn. Yes it’s not the greatest topic but there are some things I need to say about it that may help you in your marriage.
We will discuss a couple of angles about pornography; when it’s bad in a marriage and when it’s good. Also, discuss how we can keep the bad porn habits out of our marriage.
When Porn is bad
Over the years I have had friends and couples I’ve worked with that have complained about porn being very relevant in their marriage, typically their husbands. Wives don’t like it when husbands resort to porn to get satisfied, and that’s understandable.
Now, we need to keep in mind that anything in life in moderation is typically not bad, however, if porn gets abused, then it can become bad.
If a husband is using porn a lot to get off, then the reason might be because he’s trying to get out of that porn what he’s NOT getting in real life, with his wife. So, this presents a problem because it means he’s not satisfied from his wife.
No wife wants to hear that, so it’s best for wives to work on having a thriving sex life with their husbands so they don’t have to resort to and get addicted to porn. Yes, addicted.
An unhealthy addiction to porn can destroy not only a marriage but other areas of life. I worked with a couple once, the husband winded up losing his business because he spent so much of his time abusing porn and didn’t even work very often! Who knew a bad sex life could bleed over to cause someone to lose their business? The reality is this happens all the time.
When Porn Is Good
Now, let’s talk about when porn might be good in a marriage. First off, if you enjoy it together sometimes, it’s good. This can help the lower desire spouse get ideas for new positions, or acts that maybe she didn’t realize that exist or that the husband might be into.
If porn is enjoyed sometimes, and the keyword is sometimes, to get off and get satisfied a bit when your spouse maybe can’t or won’t, then it’s not bad. Let me explain. Perhaps your spouse is away on business, or they aren’t feeling well, or simply unavailable.
Watching porn and masturbating would certainly be better than cheating when any of the above scenarios are going on right?
Again, as mentioned before, this would be in extreme moderation, every once in a while, not all the time!
Also, the kind of porn watched matters too. In my opinion, watching professional porn with perfect lighting, and fake women acting very badly, sets a bad expectation for our spouses.
The best kind of porn to watch is amateur, real couples. Why? Because chances are it will be much more realistic than the over-produced fake stuff. A site I like is Lustery.com (NSFW). My husband and I watch it together every once in a while.
There you have it ladies and gents. Those are my thoughts on porn in a marriage. If used in moderation every now and then together or apart, it’s fine and better than that spouse cheating. Stay away from fake stuff, and don’t let it become an addiction.
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Until next time,
With Love,
Marina 💖