4 Ways to Make Your Bedroom HOT and Have More of the Dirty Deed
Hello, I know I’ve been away! I have been super busy as I am sure you have too. It’s been all good stuff, nothing bad. Helped my daughter move out to her own place, as sad as I was, it was also exciting to help and share that with her!
I hope the holidays was good to you in and out of the bedroom! Based on some posts on my facebook, the questions and highest response is that people want to ignite their bedrooms on fire and get away from boring, mundane, predictable, and sometimes awkward sex if you aren’t having it enough.
So, this week I want to dive into 4 ways you can ignite that passion or re-ignite in some cases!
It’s important to come out of your comfort zone.. honestly, being in just YOUR COMFORT ZONE is what has your marriage stale!
Ok here goes…
Schedule Sex.
Why this works - I am willing to bet that there is a lot of frustration and anxiety around the unknown in your marriage about “when am I getting some”, or “when do I have to give it up”. So, the solution is to not make it a total surprise.
For over 5 years, my husband and I have adopted the “intimacy lifestyle”, which means we make time for intimacy. This includes one date night each week, and sex 2 x per week
Once initiated by me, and once initiated by dear hubby. This way he doesn’t feel like he’s always the one initiating.
Trust me, it can still be great, even though it’s “planned”
Here’s how it looks; between Monday and Wednesday, I have to initiate one time, and between Thursday and Saturday, hubby has to initiate one time.
Why is that so hard? It’s still going to be a surprise when it happens, but I promise you my husband is way less moody than he would be, since he knows he’s getting it a couple times that week.
I am pleading with you, to do this, it will improve your intimacy so much with your spouse, both physical and emotional.
Do New Positions
Why this works: If we are trying to make something better and not stale, then you need to try something new. Try a pillow underneath while doing missionary or doggy style.
Try a new position altogether like reverse cowgirl, or spooning and having sex. Many ways you can spice it up with positions.
More Oral
Why this works: Oral Sex is very enjoyable for both partners and it creates new sensations or orgasms. Don’t be afraid to have sessions where it’s just oral, and next time the other partner will do just oral to the other. Love should be selfless. Many times, I give oral to hubby with nothing in return needed and make him happy and other nights at bedtime, he will make me very satisfied downtown!
Foreplay should usually include oral in my opinion. It’s an easy way to get each other’s privates ready to go!
Using the 69 position is a great way to start before sex. You are both pleasing each other and getting your parts ready for great sex at the same time!
If you don’t know by now, men especially, want oral and lots of it. lol.
Mutual Masturbation
Why this works: This is one of my favorite ways to start sex off. It’s very underrated as you don’t see tons about it. It’s very hot to lay down with each other and have your legs intertwine each other and just masturbate yourselves in front of each other.
It’s so good! My ultimate favorite, did I mention that?
The reason this is different and hot is because it’s typically a private act that you are sharing with your spouse. This is one of the easiest ways to get each other’s privates ready to go for sex.
You can do this with or without toys, but if it’s awkward for you to initiate because you haven’t been having a lot of sex, this is the best way to initiate.
Just masturbate yourselves, and each other a bit, and you guys will be driven wild and ready for sex in no time!
Closing
Well, that’s it for this week, I hope this was useful information for you, now go improve your marriage and try some of this!
If you have any questions or need help with something, I am always here to help, just hit reply! You can message me on Facebook too..
With love,
Marina 💖